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Request / Share / Exchange ChastiKey Locks / Re: Miss Johannas Locks
« Last post by kimber on October 25, 2021, 10:29:17 PM »
i think i will try the 30 day lockup  ;)
Don't hold yourself back😈😉
am locked now  :) ;) to bad no checkins
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General Chat / Re: Why do men like to be caged; to help a wife understand?
« Last post by EchtesLeder on October 25, 2021, 03:33:13 PM »
The binds of bondage and control between partners can be incredibly overpowering. There are some who embrace this to such a degree that they find a love that romantics can only ever dream of.
On the flip side the odd few will want more and more and if the partner can't provide the need then a few may extend into a darker world outside.
Don't read too much into my words though. It sounds like your hubby craves for your control. But as a measure of getting it right take the precaution and make sure he is locked when leaving your side. Maybe let him rest without the cage in bed occasionally because long term can cause sleep deprivation due to the night time "wood effect"
One word of advice to add though! ALWAYS put the cage back on after Sex! This way you and your partner can take the game out of the reality

Dear Sluts, Slaves, Trainees and Keyholders,
I was not sure whether to add this into my “New to being a keyholder” post or start a new chat.  Clearly, I decided on the latter and have done this to keep the conversations separate and, hopefully, easier to follow.  If you are new to my posts then it might help to read the aforementioned ‘chat’ as it will put this conversation into better context.

I need your advice about why my husband wants, in fact needs, to be caged and punished.

In the initial stages of my hubby exploring chastity, he locked himself up, for quite some time without telling me.  It was only during lock down 1 that he had the courage to tell me, which I applaud him for as he clearly was struggling with his sexual needs at the time.  During the early stages I was just aware of when he was locked but as time went on he asked me to be his keyholder.  I found this very strange and still cannot understand why he needs me to be the KH.  I welcome your views on that one 
Being his KH progressed into role play and, more recently, the role play has become a way of life.  Even when he is out of his cage, I find that I am more commanding and stricter on him than earlier on in our marriage.  He also responds to this and is so much more attentive and interesting to be around; he actually shares his thoughts more.
What I don’t understand is why he accepts the punishments.  I know that he can relieve himself, even when caged, but he seems to not want to.  I have asked him for his view on the matter and I am not convinced that he fully understands the need to be dominated or why he accepts the punishments so willingly.  Let’s be candid, I have been getting quite cruel recently and sense that he still wants more!
Hubby has said that:
1. His work life is so intense and he has so many responsibilities, being a slave is relaxing for him
2. When caged his hormone levels build up and the cage is a constant reminder that he shouldn’t relieve himself without my permission.  For him, this is constant joy!
3. That, as he has got older, he sometime suffers from ED and being a servant to me, without the use of his manhood, means he can still enjoy the passion of pleasing me without the guilt of being a disappointment in bed (something that I have never berated him for)
I am struggling to understand whether I am being unkind to him with the punishments and could in fact be reinforcing his lack of libido?
What are your views, self-reflection and great wisdom that you can share with me?

Yours truly and bemused,
Mistress Dominique xx
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General Chat / Re: Why do men like to be caged; to help a wife understand?
« Last post by Pc0001 on October 24, 2021, 08:52:13 PM »
Thanks for the update, glad to hear everything is going well 😀
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Request / Share / Exchange ChastiKey Locks / Re: Miss Johannas Locks
« Last post by MissJohanna on October 23, 2021, 10:48:41 PM »
i think i will try the 30 day lockup  ;)
Don't hold yourself back😈😉
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Request / Share / Exchange ChastiKey Locks / Re: Miss Johannas Locks
« Last post by kimber on October 23, 2021, 10:47:23 PM »
i think i will try the 30 day lockup  ;)
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General Chat / Re: Why do men like to be caged; to help a wife understand?
« Last post by dominiquerichards81 on October 23, 2021, 07:12:02 PM »
Hello Oddslutpuppy,

Lovely to hear from you and sorry if I have caused any concern.  We are both well, though the return to work has been brutal with insane amounts of work to do.  Still, we're not complaining.  In this crazy post-lockdown-2 time of slow growth, panic buying, fuel rather than toilet rolls this time, and concerns about what we are doing to the environment, we're grateful that we have jobs, health and each other.  Am I right?

Anyway, the post euphoric slump after our amazing fortnight away, righted itself within a week.  I had Subby under a leash, licking at the cream like a kitten and me purring like a lioness, if you can read between the lines, within a week.  With the memories of our vacation and reenergised role play, the passion even carried on for a couple of weeks into work; unheard of for us!

Oh well, the last 5 weeks have been a blur of 12 hour days of 6 day weeks but we are on a break for a long weekend! Only one day into it, with zero commitments, and the saucy thoughts are coming to life once again, Yey! :-)

The plan is for the kids to stay with friends and we have a couple days in a hotel.  It was such fun packing: "Hubby, do you like this dress...and these stilettoes...these panties?"  His eyes almost popped!  When I then made him pack his bag with the 'toys', he almost baulked with the list of items that I prescribed would go into it, prrrrrrr ;)

So, one more night at home, Subby is neatly trimmed and locked up.  Tomorrow he gets to be the perfect gentleman, and I mean PERFECT.  He won't be, of cause, but we both need to shake off the rust and learn how to please one another...the fun way!  :)

Love to you and impish grins to everyone else...

Mistress D
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Request / Share / Exchange ChastiKey Locks / Re: a day to two days lock
« Last post by softspeak on October 23, 2021, 04:46:46 PM »
   Thank you Madam,
     I was unlocked after 60 hours. You were always under control and active in my experience. I look forward to another round.
   -softspeak
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Request / Share / Exchange ChastiKey Locks / Take a Chance
« Last post by Goddess Scarlett on October 23, 2021, 08:14:40 AM »
Take a chance and pick a lock!

One will last for a week and one will last for a month.

Will you be lucky?

https://chastikey.com/sharedlock/3K2DRYFYW36G83C

https://chastikey.com/sharedlock/3SA8XNY325G87Q2

Card info hidden
No test locks allowed
No DM required to load
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Request / Share / Exchange ChastiKey Locks / New Game
« Last post by legionersha on October 22, 2021, 09:56:10 PM »
A new game for you) The rules are very simple: a maximum of 10 players, 1 green, 6 red, a chance every 12 hours when someone wins, the rest are awarded one card of each type, except for the reset card. If all the seats are occupied, come back later) Good luck to all players)
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Request / Share / Exchange ChastiKey Locks / Hide & Seek lock
« Last post by legionersha on October 22, 2021, 09:28:57 PM »
I am glad to welcome you here. This is a new lock for you. 5-15 sticky cards, a chance every 15 minutes, 1-3 green cards, try to get out before I check you. Check-in every 3 hours, if you missed, I add 3 sticky cards, if I found you, the number of sticky cards doubles. good luck)
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