Why do men like to be caged; to help a wife understand?

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Re: Why do men like to be caged; to help a wife understand?
« Reply #45 on: November 05, 2021, 03:53:06 AM »
I find it interesting how people equate clothing with gender. If one looks back at the manner of dress throughout history, there are many instances of men's clothing which could be thought of as being feminine in nature. It was only a couple of hundred years ago that men were wearing wigs and having their faces powdered.

We all have our own limits of things that we are comfortable with. Are you over reacting? That's not for anyone else to say. The whole issue does appear to push a button for you....and him for that matter. You have to decide whether you can put up with his interest in cross dressing or if it is a hard limit for you. Whatever the result, one of the two of you are going to have to compromise....but isn't that the nature of a relationship? Give and take by both partners at some time.

As for the punishment...I would agree that there should be consequences for his touching your things without permission, and for neglecting his work. But I'm not sure that I know either of you enough to make any valid suggestions. I would, however, be interested in hearing about what you decide to do.
Be careful what you wish for... you just may get it and not in the way you expected.

Re: Why do men like to be caged; to help a wife understand?
« Reply #46 on: November 05, 2021, 07:24:06 PM »
Hello Odslutpuppy,
I understand what you are saying.  I’m still working out in my own head why seeing my hubby in woman’s clothing pushes such a large button for me.  To be honest, he has pretty good legs and he could pull off a skirt and stockings very well.  He certainly doesn’t have a problem with wearing woman’s clothing or judging others, male or female, with doing the same.
One of the big issues is the lying.  He told me that he was going to stick to one set of rules but behind my back is doing something else.  I know that he won’t do anything serious, such as see another person, but truth is important to me.  I also like to be part of his passion and whenever we have shared our desires, life has become considerably more fun.
Using my stuff is another big issue.  How can I put the corset on as part of my role as his Domme and KH knowing that he was the last person to wear it or that when he sees it, he is picturing himself wearing it?
As his punishment: for using my things I have decided to take something of his away.  In this case it is his favourite cage.  For the week he is in the one I like.  Unfortunately for him, this one is too small for the night time woodies and so he is going to be losing some sleep!  As for not working, Hubby is now coming home half an hour earlier but is working through lunchtime to make up the time difference.  This means that I won’t be cooking dinner for the foreseeable future. 😊
As for the compromise.  Cross-dressing is something within him that isn’t going to go away.  I have seen in his eyes how it gives him such a deep level of satisfaction, almost relaxation.  The passion that it instils in him is definitely worth it.  We will need to talk this through but I am thinking a small budget for clothing that he wears, some private time to dress (until I can get my head straightened out) and no more sharing my bloody clothes!
Thank you for listening and advising,
Mistress Dominique xxx

Re: Why do men like to be caged; to help a wife understand?
« Reply #47 on: December 01, 2021, 05:48:54 PM »
Hello KHs, sluts et al,

I'm disappointed to say that Hubby caught the retched Covid virus and has been isolating for the last five days.  Fortunately we are both double jabbed and strong so nothing to worry about.  You can imagine that I had a mixture of concern for his wellbeing and distrust of what the naughty little slut would get up to being in the home all alone.  Call me soft, but I decided to trust him and allowed him to isolate in the spare room unlocked.

That isn't the end of it though, the annoying slut then gave covid to me and now I'm having to isolate too!  He's several days ahead of me and so is on the road to recovery accordingly.  This morning, after the kids went to school (both clear on LFTs of cause), Subby woke me up, depositing a key next to my pillow.  Can you believe that he had locked himself up and was giving me puppy dog eyes!

Now answer me this, two years of avoiding covid, the fool gets it and the only thing on his mind is sexual release.  What is wrong with him! ;-)

Yours coughingly,

Mistress D xx