New to being a keyholder

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Re: New to being a keyholder
« Reply #30 on: August 13, 2021, 08:13:10 PM »
Hello KHs et al,
I'm calling today's posting "Shopping Trip"
As our vacation draws to an end and we have just 1 day left,  I thought that Hubby (as Subby) should take me shopping tomorrow.  We are leaving the kids with friends so have the day for some fun.
Subby has been instructed to find a good local attraction, restaurant and shops.  The latter must include a sex shop and when we go in he is to make it very clear that he is my sub and will be buying to please me.
What are your suggestions? You have just over 12 hours and money is no limit as he is paying;-)
Yours impishly,
Mistress Dominique xxx

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Re: New to being a keyholder
« Reply #31 on: August 14, 2021, 02:55:03 AM »
Mistress Dominique, I feel it only proper to point out that having Subby 'make it clear' that he is your submissive is "forcing" your kink on an unconsenting person. This is a person in a retail sales position.... would you expect Subby to do the same thing at the grocery store?

If you want to have a humiliation aspect to the shopping trip, maybe consider having Subby ask about items you think would embarrass him (i.e. strap-on dildos or strap-on harnesses). Something that keeps the kink aspect just between the two of you.
Be careful what you wish for... you just may get it and not in the way you expected.


Re: New to being a keyholder
« Reply #32 on: August 14, 2021, 09:39:22 AM »
Hello Odslutpuppy,
Sounds advice,  as always:-)
Kind regards,
Mistress D xx

Re: New to being a keyholder
« Reply #33 on: October 29, 2021, 11:30:45 AM »
Hello Chastikey et al,
Rekindling and re-establishing our roles…
It has been what feels like forever since I last wrote on what has become for me and Subby the “fun and saucy” posting.  These conversations have become very much about the fantasy and creative thoughts that chastity role play has given us.  A place where we enjoy sharing our experiences to get ideas and guidance from you, it has also become part of the disciplining of my naughty little slut of a husband; me posting Subby’s antics is a combination of humiliation and sexual release.  As I type, my impish imagination grows wings, which the wise amongst you readers give me guidance on how to make them safe and sensible.  For this I am, and definitely Subby is, always very grateful.  The discussions are as sexy and interesting as the delivery.
Hubby and I have both been too busy and tired to spend the time on chastity for the last couple of months.  We have found that time and thought are essential in making this relationship work and so the cage and various other toys have been neatly stored away in their suitcase, out of the way of prying eyes of cause.  Fortunately, we have been able to take a break from work, which is all absorbing, and now give each other time.  A weekend away, from the kids and friends, was greatly needed and that is what we have done.
Initially, neither of us thought that we would have the energy for ‘fun’ and considered collapsing at home, with the TV and hot drinks, instead.  The effort put into finding a hotel, with a room tucked away from causing anyone else embarrassment, took a great deal of will power.  But we managed it and boy, was it worth it!
The day before, packing our suitcases was fun and all part of the build-up.  I made Subby watch me pack my very best, and most enticing, lingerie and dresses.  Making a great show of flattening the fabric, holding it against my petite body, I could see how desperate he was to feel it too; even, possibly, imagine wearing it for himself!  The latter still makes me feel uncomfortable, the distinction between maleness and femininity are too engrained within me.  However, Subby knows that he is not allowed to wear woman’s clothing without my permission, or supervision.  This doesn’t stop me from teasing him with it, all of the time😊
Once packed, I explained that there was one thing left to do: “Darling, haven’t you forgotten something?” This produced a puzzle look on his face and a “No, I think that is it?”
“No, what!” Then a look of worry appeared, the sternness in my voice indicating that more was going on here than he had considered.
Instantly the shoulders dropped, the eyes became averted and in a quieter voice “Sorry Mistress,  please explain what my inadequate mind has overlooked.”
“That is better, slut.  Now, is it not time that you locked your tiny self away?”
“Of cause, sorry Mistress!  I will do it now.”  Slightly rushed but also showing a satisfied relief, Hubby was packed away in his silver cage and was handing me the key in a very short time.
“Much better.” I said, giving his package a quick inspection and tug.  I love making it clear to him that I own his freedom and the tug is like underlining this fact.
“Now, shopping, some time with the kids and an early night; you are going to need your energy for the next couple of days darling!” 😊
The balance of fun and mundane is all part of the process.  When my head is in the game, I am very good at this.  Just when Subby is relaxing into one thing, a short reminding comment, a look or touch, keeps the role play alive.  The build up takes effort and the longer it goes on for the better the high is but also the more energy is consumed.  For me, it is less tiring, the fun of being the Mistress I suppose: giving orders, having Subby at my beck and call, only takes thinking time.  However, though tiring for my hubby, the end release is always so much more intense.  The journey, with the many pleasurable experiences for me and the explosive finale for him, is why chastity has become such an important part of our marriage! 😊
Unfortunately, I have to dash now but I will continue the story soon, I promise.
Yours dominantly,
Mistress D xx

Re: New to being a keyholder
« Reply #34 on: October 30, 2021, 07:33:57 PM »
Hello Chastikey et al,
Rekindling and re-establishing our roles…part 2
The first day away started off a little awkwardly: thoughts of work and home chores took time to fade into the background.  I had given the break away some thought and instructed Subby that he was to woo me for the first 24 hours and not rush into anything too quickly.  He enjoys being overtly gentlemanly as much as I enjoy being pampered, I especially love the looks that I get from other woman, with their less attentive husbands, as he opens doors, carries the bags and the like.  I know, smugness is not something to be proud of but if every woman, and man, could put their socially induced sensibilities to one side, I think that everyone would have a far more fulfilling life!
We had about an hour’s drive to the hotel and being chauffeured is always nice; I hate driving anyway.  The advantage of riding shotgun, of cause, is being able to tease Subby by showing a little thigh, making the occasional inuendo and giving him the most smouldering of looks whilst at traffic lights.  Listening to his wanton groans and looks of panic, is simply divine!😉  By the time we arrived Subby was clearly aching.  Check in went smoothly and he could not have taken our suitcases up to our room any more promptly if he had tried, and it was not a short walk with two cases, a dress bag and bottles of fizz!
Our room was certainly out of the way, which put my sensibilities at rest.  The hotel was built in the Victorian era and though tired at the edges, has beautiful lines and décor.  The room was smallish but serviceable to our needs: warm, no adjoining rooms and an ensuite.  Closer inspection revealed some other handy features such as bed posts, a very sturdy towel rail and a soft leather chair of useful proportions.  Hubby could see me inspecting the room and, I suspect, was able to guess at some of my thoughts.  His demeanour was one of excitement and apprehension, he-he, I play him so well!
As I warmed up in a bath with a glass of bubbly, Subby unpacked and organised the room.  From the bath I was able to give him the occasional instruction which he responded to with an enthusiastic “Yes, Mistress!”
“Bring me my towel slave and then you need to take a shower.  Make sure that you are shaved and the like.  You have 10 minutes and when you come into the room, keep your eyes to the ground.  You will only be wearing your cage.”
For my part, I dried my thick brown hair off a little and plaited it whilst damp; Hubby has a thing for wet hair (I know, right!).  I decided not to waste time dressing and instead laid on the bed with the thick towel around me.  I am proud of my body and very comfortable in my nakedness.  I’m not an exhibitionist and definitely am an introvert; you would possibly not notice me in a crowded room.  However, I have lots of self-confidence, which is important during role play.  I am very empathic and can imagine what Hubby wants, feels and sees.  I knew that seeing my rounded calves and hair over the shoulder would drive him wild!  The towel would heighten his desire as it was only one short tug from revealing my nakedness.
As he entered, eyes down, I told him to halt and turn 360.  “Hmmm, I can see that you have let yourself go a little over the last few months, you will need to restart at the gym when we get home.  We can work on some of the toning up over the next two days my little puppy dog…  I am pleased that you are trimmed and well presented, though.”
“Yes Mistress, I am here to please you.  Can I look up, I would like to see Mistress’ beauty?”
“Yes, you may.”
Yep, his eyes definitely widened as he saw my legs, his breathing started to increase as well.  “Mistress is beautiful.  Please instruct me as to what you desire from me.”
“Come to the side of the bed.”  I removed the towel and heard a pleasing groan from my slave.  “You are going to be my slut for the rest of the day, do you understand?” A nod.  “Do you understand!”
“Yes Mistress.”
“I want you to make my skin tingle. You may now touch my body with your mouth but no hands!”
“Yes Mistress, I will enjoy pleasing you.”
“Oh, one other thing, rewards and punishments.”  I said, using my eyes to draw his attention to the crop which was at my side.  “If you please me then you will get strokes, if you linger too long and start to bore me, or miss something important, then you will feel the sting of my disappointment, do you understand puppy dog?”
“I understand, I will work very hard to please you Mistress.”
The next hour went well, very well indeed.  By the end of the session, my skin felt electrified, Subby is not afraid to explore every inch!  Judging from his leakage, my dirty little slut of a husband had fun too!  The mixture of strokes and slaps from the crop heightened rather than hindered his enthusiasm. He-he, and it was only mid-afternoon!
“You have pleased me.  Wash off your seepage and then you may lay next to me.  My glass needs filling first and then we can talk…we need to discuss some of your failings over the last couple of months…”
“What Mistress?  I thought we were taking a break, it was work!”
“Oh, you poor, poor little thing.  I never stop noticing you dear and I want you to know that it is all to help make you a better slave.”
I swear his hand was shaking when he filled my glass😉
The rest of the weekend was very special and Subby got a treat which he had asked for but I had not been able to do at home; the walls are too thin and kids are always home! 
If you would like me to share further, then please add a comment to this posting.
Mistress Dominique xxx

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Re: New to being a keyholder
« Reply #35 on: October 30, 2021, 09:59:21 PM »
Wonderful to hear that things went well, Mistress Dominique - I suspect that your imagination has much to do with that. It always warms my ❤️ to "see" what good self confidence can result in.

Looking forward to hearing about the rest of your weekend, Mistress Dominique. And I'm pretty confident that there's many more interested as well. 😘😘
Be careful what you wish for... you just may get it and not in the way you expected.


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Re: New to being a keyholder
« Reply #36 on: October 30, 2021, 10:05:56 PM »
The journey, with the many pleasurable experiences for me and the explosive finale for him, is why chastity has become such an important part of our marriage! 😊

I think you've now found your answer to the question you asked; "Why do men like to be caged" :-)

Re: New to being a keyholder
« Reply #37 on: November 11, 2021, 04:48:15 PM »
Hello Chastikey et al,
Rekindling and re-establishing our roles…part 3
Without doubt, when Hubby is caged and when I am able to really make him feel his servitude to me, life is very intense and deeply rewarding.  In the busy day-to-day life that most of us lead, it is difficult to really dominate my sub.  When a weekend crops up (I do giggle when I think of the work ‘crop’), it offers a chance to tick so many passionate and primal boxes.
The first night of our break away from being parents was fun, awkward at times and even down tight clunky, but fun.  However, in the morning we were both woken by the rude sounds of crates being banged around by the catering staff (now we understood why there were not many guests at this end of the hotel).  That aside, we both loved the fact that there was no cat asking for breakfast or kids on Xbox’s shouting out “Head Shot!”.  Plus, the advantage of waking up early was, my slave had more time to pamper his Mistress. ;-)
“Would Mistress like me to run a bath before we go down for breakfast?”
“Yes, Mistress would.  I also want you to straighten the room up, it looks like an orgy has taken place here!”  We both smiled at that one.
After a lovely warm start to the morning, Subby having heated up my towels on the radiator for when I emerged from the bath, I went to get dressed.  Just as Subby was about to jump into the shower I had a thought.  “Stop.  Put these on behind your back.” I said, handing him some cuffs, “And sit on that chair whilst I dress.  I want you to describe how you are feeling and what you are hoping will happen today.”
Still wrapped in my towel, I took my time selecting first my underwear and then a warm woollen dress which would go wonderfully well with my heeled black boots.  I teased him endlessly as I dressed; pulling up stockings should never be rushed and the latches can be so troublesome;-)  The constant dialogue from him gave me further ideas of how to make him aroused and excited. Finally, when I put my foot against his cage as he sat, and slowly zipping up the boot, I thought he was going to faint!  Being a woman is amazing and you guys are such slaves to your manhood’s!
The morning was wonderful.  After a filling breakfast we took a stroll along the waterfront on an unseasonably mild Autumn day.  I flirted with Hubby endlessly, smouldering looks, girly giggles and strokes of the arms; he loves being touched on his arms and back.  The funniest point was walking past an elderly couple who were holding hands, clearly still in love, and the gentleman commented to Hubby on what a fine day it was for “walking, talking and courting”.  Just as he said this, I pinched Subby’s arse and made him jump.  Whispering in his ear “I think you enjoyed the pain from that” he actually blushed.  Was he in for a treat tonight!
After a bit of shopping, which neither of us were particularly inspired in doing, we went to a pub for lunch.  A pint at lunchtime always makes Hubby sleepy, which I was planning for, and so upon our return to the hotel I suggested a short nap.  Very quickly he was snoring away to himself and I carefully got out of bed, so as not to disturb him, to get his treat ready.  Hubby had explained previously that the crop is fun but he would love to be disciplined harder.  This was never an option at home with kids constantly around and so today he was going to get what he asked for...possibly more than he hoped for!
Got to dash now, I’ll explain more when I get the time.
Yours impishly,
Mistress Dominique xxx

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Re: New to being a keyholder
« Reply #38 on: November 11, 2021, 10:07:58 PM »
Shame, Mistress Dominique... You're supposed to tease Subby..... not the rest of us! 😜

Looking forward to hearing the rest of the story.
Be careful what you wish for... you just may get it and not in the way you expected.