My husband is locked

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My husband is locked
« on: November 06, 2019, 06:49:33 PM »
My husband is locked right now and i lock the keys in a time lock safe box where i can choose hours, days, minutes to set and i can only bring myself to set it to 2 days max what are things i can do to have courage to set it longer mainly for torture and pleasure please help

Re: My husband is locked
« Reply #1 on: November 06, 2019, 08:20:51 PM »
Maybe try using the app and see if you could find a willing keyholder to assist you!

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Re: My husband is locked
« Reply #2 on: November 06, 2019, 08:44:19 PM »
Real chastisement starts when lockee wants desperately out. So week Is minimum.

Re: My husband is locked
« Reply #3 on: November 09, 2019, 01:56:30 PM »
😲 My wife upped her game, its going to be 4 days this time.  I love her to death!

Re: My husband is locked
« Reply #4 on: January 11, 2020, 05:48:00 PM »
Even if you only keep the box at 2 day intervals, that does mean you have to unlock him then.  Just keep rolling over the lock time.

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Re: My husband is locked
« Reply #5 on: January 23, 2020, 04:33:23 AM »
My husband is locked right now and i lock the keys in a time lock safe box where i can choose hours, days, minutes to set and i can only bring myself to set it to 2 days max what are things i can do to have courage to set it longer mainly for torture and pleasure please help

Try adding a game of chance on unlock day and let fate decide.  Dice roll or drawing a color marble from a bag of plain ones.  There are online generators with odds I think for games like that.
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Re: My husband is locked
« Reply #6 on: September 10, 2021, 11:25:19 AM »
My husband is locked right now and i lock the keys in a time lock safe box where i can choose hours, days, minutes to set and i can only bring myself to set it to 2 days max what are things i can do to have courage to set it longer mainly for torture and pleasure please help

Try adding a game of chance on unlock day and let fate decide.  Dice roll or drawing a color marble from a bag of plain ones.  There are online generators with odds I think for games like that.

I disagree, respectfully.

Your husband ceded control to you. He wants you to make the decision about his possible release. He wants you in control of him.

Leaving his release to chance disenfranchises you as decision maker, key holder, and domme. That's probably not what turns him on. Since he has given you control, you have to learn to appreciate it and use that control. I'd recommend setting the time lock for a few hours longer than usual working your way up to added days. Once you've been able to work up the courage to lock him for a full week or more tease him by adding another day or two.

Finally, you might want to get away from the safe altogether. Wear the key on a necklace, bracelet, or best of all anklet and tease him with it. Twirl it around your finger while talking to him about ordinary things as a subtle reminder that you are in control. This is what he wants.

Be in control.

Re: My husband is locked
« Reply #7 on: October 31, 2021, 01:17:14 PM »
I strongly agree with Vincent E.
My hubby started off with self-chastity and used a locker for the key.  This helped him in the early stages to 'itch' some of his needs and also to get experience with ChastiKey locks.  He is very good with the fantasy in his own head and was able to convince himself that he had a cruel Domme, only too willing to extend his chastity at a click of a button.  However, Hubby also gets bored easily and soon wanted more.
We are very open with each other, Hubby has certainly learned how to discuss his needs since the enforced isolation brought about by Lockdown.  When he did pluck up the courage to share with me his deepest needs and I began to take the role of his keyholder and then Domme, he found that the ChastiKey locks and self-chastity were too light on his emotions.  In his words "Sometimes I haven't got the energy to include you in the whole chastity role play and so ChastiKey is like a 'quickie' in the bathroom."
I get this and am happy for him to fulfil his own needs...sometimes.  Especially as he becomes more amorous towards me and things usually end in my favour;-)
So, what I am saying is: if you are the KH, enjoy it but be safe, both on your emotions and the physical aspect.  I can imagine that for some it is a darker experience and as long as nobody is hurt, sub, KH or others on the periphery, then if it floats their boat, go for it.  If you are not comfortable, discuss the situation and set the boundaries; these discussions are fun and fulfilling too! 
Being the KH takes energy and imagination, if you are adding in the Domme dimension, even more so.  For us it is a partnership and unless we are both 'feeling it', Mistress Dominique and Subby are put away in their suitcase until we are both ready.  If we are feeling it, then wow, fun time!
Just remember: be safe and don’t get lost in the fantasy.  Getting advice from the amazing people on ChastiKey, has been invaluable to me and Subby.
Mistress D xxx