How did you discover chastity?

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Offline MarkWearsPanties

How did you discover chastity?
« on: May 25, 2018, 12:24:43 PM »
I'm very curious how others discovered they were into chastity, either being locked or locking someone else in chastity (or both, of course). I hope some of you will share your stories of discovery.

For me, it started when I was a young teenager, around 14 years old. I had discovered masturbation, of course. I also discovered that not giving in to the temptation actually extended the pleasure somehow. I began playing denial games with myself by rolling a six-sided dice, only cumming when I rolled the six. I devised an elaborate system for myself where I could earn (or loose) rolls for any given day.

When I was a little older, around 16 or so, I found a photo of a Victorian era male chastity device. Something like shown here: http://www.sexualhistorytour.com/victorian-anti-masturbationanti-nocturnal-emissions-devices/. I was mesmerized and knew I wanted one. I fashioned a crude chastity belt out of some plastic tubing and a metal chain. It wasn't very comfortable but I started wearing it to bed at night to prevent any play. It worked well enough. While boys in my class were stealing dad's Playboy to get their jollies on a daily basis, I was doing the opposite.

Of course, by the time the Internet arrived and the first mass produced male chastity devices became available, I switched away from home built stuff and went with them instead. My cages also became smaller gradually and now I find that contrary to what I expected, the shorter cages are the most comfortable.

So, how about you? How did you get into chastity? I'd especially like to hear from keyholders as well.

Re: How did you discover chastity?
« Reply #1 on: May 25, 2018, 10:23:49 PM »
I discovered it quite a bit later than you.

I've been into power exchange for as long as I can remember, and I also like the idea of hotwifing.  Not the humiliation, white boi 2 inch 3 stroke dick vs black 12 inch that can fuck for 7 hours without cumming cuckold shit that you see all the time, but more like what you find if you look up stag/vixen stuff (Hence, the first part of my nick.)

Like most men, I masturbate, and I used to be able to cum 3, 4, or more times a day when I was younger.  Now, I'm in my early 40s, and my recovery time isn't what it once was.  So, in order to not cheat my wife out of sex if she wanted it some evening, I stopped cumming when I masturbated, and just edged instead.  I discovered I liked it.  A lot.

Fast forward a bit, and I was online looking at edging porn, games, what have you, and I stumbled across this post:
https://onlyshecums.tumblr.com/post/150706303522/love-your-blog-would-love-to-hear-more-prior-to

When I got to the end of it, I realized I was incredibly turned on, and as hard as I'd ever been. So, I ordered a knockoff CB6000 from China, and tried it out.
The rest, as they say, is old shit...I mean....history.

I've since tried being a KH, and a lockee, as well as being an online master to cucks, although that was happening before I discovered chastity, too.  (Which explains the rest of my nick.) I do enjoy a bit of humiliation from the Dom side, but not the other way around.

I'm sure I could come up with more details if I thought about it a bit more, but I'm sure that will give you a basic idea.....


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Offline MarkWearsPanties

Re: How did you discover chastity?
« Reply #2 on: May 25, 2018, 10:45:35 PM »
Thanks for sharing, great answer! I hope more people will respond.  :)

Re: How did you discover chastity?
« Reply #3 on: May 26, 2018, 02:20:39 AM »
For me, I'm self locked and I do it mostly to try and gain control of my rampant masturbation habit.  I've had some luck, though the conversations with my wife have been eye opening.

Turns out, she's not interested in being a KH but she did finally agree to trying out being submissive.  We're just starting but it's been very refreshing to discover.  We've discussed her holding my key so that I'm super horny when it's time for us to play.  I'm definitely down for seeing where this goes!

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Re: How did you discover chastity?
« Reply #4 on: May 26, 2018, 06:59:30 AM »
For me, I'm self locked and I do it mostly to try and gain control of my rampant masturbation habit.  I've had some luck, though the conversations with my wife have been eye opening.

Turns out, she's not interested in being a KH but she did finally agree to trying out being submissive.  We're just starting but it's been very refreshing to discover.  We've discussed her holding my key so that I'm super horny when it's time for us to play.  I'm definitely down for seeing where this goes!

Super happy to hear this Clover - exciting times ahead (fingers crossed)

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Re: How did you discover chastity?
« Reply #5 on: May 26, 2018, 11:16:57 AM »
For me, I'm self locked and I do it mostly to try and gain control of my rampant masturbation habit.  I've had some luck, though the conversations with my wife have been eye opening.

Turns out, she's not interested in being a KH but she did finally agree to trying out being submissive.  We're just starting but it's been very refreshing to discover.  We've discussed her holding my key so that I'm super horny when it's time for us to play.  I'm definitely down for seeing where this goes!

Thanks for your answer and congratulations for getting your wife on board, somewhat at least.  ;)

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Re: How did you discover chastity?
« Reply #6 on: May 26, 2018, 11:50:55 AM »
I am rather new to chastity, but not aspects of BDSM.  Chastity was always something I knew about, but never thought that I would enjoy...if enjoy is the appropriate word for being frustrated.

Since my early teenage years I have always been intrigued by spanking.  This interest slowly grew over time.  It lead to me with a few girlfriends experimenting with spanking.  Firstly with hand otk, then slowly introducing implements.  As well as the implements, there were the bondage parts of it, handcuffs etc.

Over time I understood that I was submissive.  Girlfriends came and went, and there were also some online interactions.  It was during one of these online interactions that limits were being tested, and chastity was mentioned.  Long story short, I purchased a cage from a local shop, tried it, loved it, and wanted to find out more about it.  Started researching it a bit more, found this site a few months ago, and have been "enjoying" the experience ever since.

I still have a lot to learn, but there is a great community here to pick the minds of, and some exceptional key holders to boot (which is AWESOME!).

Thank you Kevin for the platform to enjoy our "kinks" with chastity.

Re: How did you discover chastity?
« Reply #7 on: May 28, 2018, 12:28:40 PM »
For me i think it started when i looked for information about transitionning. Between the website information on HTR an surgery i found some "sissy" stuff about "not letting your useless little clitty free" and i was hooked.

Now i'm gonna start htr in some month and i keep my clitty lock as long as possible. But with my weak will i always endup freeing myself after one month or two. But with this app. It's gonna be more fun and out of my control :p

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Re: How did you discover chastity?
« Reply #8 on: July 17, 2018, 02:33:59 PM »
I was coding an app and I was looking for an example of something and google sent me to the fetlife app on github. It was nearly 2 years ago and I'd just got free from a really bad person so I made an account and ran with it.  I started talking to someone on FL and one of the first things she sent me was a picture of her sub swelling in a cage. After I found out the girl was mental, I got my first cage. Now I found this app, I'm happy enough, :)

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Offline sissynathalia

Re: How did you discover chastity?
« Reply #9 on: July 17, 2018, 05:57:21 PM »
I discovered chastity at around 18-20 years old. I found that fantastic website called sissy station. Sadly it disappeared but it was very cool and had a lot of content about feminization. One of the forced feminization stories on the website involved a guy being locked in a chastity cage and forced to dress and behave like a girl in the hope of being released. I found that story so hot!
Unfortunately I was living at my parents at that time and could not get my own cage to experiment. It's only much later when I finally had a place of my own that I bought my first cage. I remember when it arrived in the post, I was so hard that it took mu hours to be able to lock it up :-p

Re: How did you discover chastity?
« Reply #10 on: July 28, 2018, 03:43:50 AM »
I first found chastity around the age of 15... See, I was the oldest born, and have always had an amazingly innocent mind. For example, the first time I heard about porn was in 6th grade, when a teacher failed to check the magazines we were using for an in-class assignment, and on the front cover, and throughout the article, I read the word "Pornography," and had no idea what it means, so I asked her, and she asked where I found it. I showed her, and she told me, but in words I didn't understand. Then in 8th grade I found what out what it mean't the hard way. It was an 8th grade graduation party, and these kids forced me to watch it. To this day, I still never have watched it. However, I do masterbate, as it is healthy for the body, and did start it back after doing research... as I am a very logical, intellectual-based human being. But I also found out through this research about chastity, and the benefits of chastity. My girlfriend and I started my chastity when I was 18, 2 years after we had met, and 1 year, 6 months after we had started our relationship. And both of us have been enjoying it ever since.

Re: How did you discover chastity?
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Re: How did you discover chastity?
« Reply #12 on: August 05, 2018, 11:51:44 AM »
My first Chastity cage was in my 40's, it was the CB6000, I now have own a Holy Trainer which I believe is much better. Looking for a steel cage at Mature Metal.

So I guess I've known about it since my 20's. I'm very kinky so it was just a matter of time before I would get into it. It's been on an off, being self bondage the most I had was four days in a row.

Someone at Fetlife told me about Chastikey and this has opened a whole new aspect to the matter. I love the app and this community. Looking forward to the day when punishment cards are added!

So today I'm entering into what might be my longest streak with Hailey, the bot. The gracious Miss Katie has accepted to control me once the bot releases me. She said to use the 24 to 96 hour but it might be longer. I'm excited and nervous!

Re: How did you discover chastity?
« Reply #13 on: November 14, 2018, 06:56:04 PM »
My wife caught me masterbating. Not bad itself, but she was pissed at being left out. So I was locked up. She said forever, but after a year she let me out part time. After the first month she started putting my hands in restraint and taking it off to edge me. Then she started weekly shaving and prostate milking to releave the pressure. Of course, I had to do her orally every day.

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Re: How did you discover chastity?
« Reply #14 on: November 14, 2018, 07:34:49 PM »
That sounds way more like the plot of erotic fiction than real life.  Surely there was more leading up to it than masturbating once?  Was she in control before that incident?  Were you disobeying a previous order by masturbating?

A year locked away doesn't just happen all at once.